Who Is Robert Slatzer?

QUESTIONABLE FOUNDATIONS

It is essential to note that Slatzer’s purported connection with Marilyn primarily centres around their time on the set of the film Niagara. Slatzer managed to gain access to the set using his press pass, resulting in several photographs of him and Marilyn together. However, these photographs primarily depict their interactions during filming, and the evidence beyond that is limited.

Furthermore, the lack of additional supporting evidence, such as letters or documented interactions, casts further doubt on the depth of their relationship as portrayed by Slatzer. While he possesses a signed photograph, it is plausible that he obtained it during his time on the set rather than through a personal connection with Marilyn.

Many have stated Marilyn would not have posed this way with a fan however Marilyn often took photos with fans, co-stars, crew and photographers in a “familiar” fashion.

THE FLAWED MARRIAGE NARRATIVE

One of Slatzer’s central claims revolves around his alleged marriage to Marilyn in October 1952, followed by an annulment at the studio’s behest. However, inconsistencies emerge that undermine this narrative. During that period, Marilyn was romantically involved with Joe DiMaggio, and there is no credible evidence to suggest any romantic liaisons with other men. Moreover, records indicate Marilyn’s presence at a party hosted by Photoplay on October 3, 1952, and a receipt from JAX department store in Beverly Hills shows clothing purchases on October 4th, which contradicts Slatzer’s claims of being with Marilyn in Mexico on those days.

SLATZER’S MEDIA APPEARANCES

Slatzer’s frequent mentions in the press during the time he claimed to be connected to Marilyn raise doubts about his credibility. Marilyn was known for her wariness of those who sought to exploit her fame, which seems to be exactly what Slatzer attempted to do. Reports of his attempts to woo Marilyn through phone calls and mail, as well as his mention in various publications, add another layer of scepticism to his claims.

ALLAN “WHITEY” SNYDER

In the 1970s, Marilyn’s personal makeup artist and friend, Allan “Whitey” Snyder, wrote the foreword to Slatzer’s book, seemingly indicating a close relationship between Slatzer and Marilyn. While some fans attribute Snyder’s endorsement to naivety or being deceived by Slatzer, Anthony Summers’ biography reveals quotes from Snyder that suggest a familiarity between Marilyn and Slatzer and how Marilyn “always loved him”. However, there is no other documentation, mention in phone books, or letters from either Marilyn or Slatzer that corroborate their close connection. Furthermore, other friends of Marilyn have made no mention of Slatzer’s involvement.

INVOLVEMENT OF A MARRIAGE WITNESS

Slatzer’s claim of having a boxer friend serve as a witness to his marriage to Marilyn adds further doubts to his story. The boxer, Noble “Kid,” Chissell initially supported Slatzer’s claims but later admitted to lying due to financial pressures – accepting a mere $100 for the lie. Additionally, Slatzer’s assertion of having interviewed Pat Newcomb for his book is contradicted by Donald Spoto, who confirms that Newcomb denied ever meeting Slatzer.

THE CONFIDENTIAL ARTICLE

In Anthony Summers’ book, Goddess: The Secret Lives of Marilyn Monroe, a Confidential magazine article from May 1957 is mentioned that appeared during Marilyn’s marriage to Arthur Miller, discussing her connection with Robert Slatzer. Summers notes that Slatzer himself confirmed the contents of the article. While the article does not mention a marriage, it does acknowledge that Marilyn and Slatzer knew each other, lending a degree of credibility to Slatzer’s connection with Marilyn. However, it is important to realise that Slatzer embellished other aspects of his tale, further raising doubts about his overall credibility.

CONSIDERING MARILYN’S PRIVACY AND ACTIONS

An interesting opinion, albeit not from a specific source, suggests that once the article in Confidential hit the stands in 1957, Marilyn would have severed all ties with Slatzer if they had known each other to begin with. Marilyn was fiercely protective of her privacy and had previously cut off friends (Natasha Lytess) for breaching her trust. It is plausible that the article in Confidential insinuating a sexual relationship would have greatly angered her. Furthermore, Marilyn’s actions during the filming of The Prince and the Showgirl, where she fired her butler and maid for revealing details about their cottage’s decor, demonstrate her unwavering commitment to maintaining her privacy and safeguarding her personal life.

SOMETHING’S GOT TO GIVE

In 1991, Robert Slatzer claimed to have revealed 12 new images of Marilyn Monroe from the set of the unfinished film Something’s Got to Give in 1962. However, it’s important to note that the credited photographers from the set are well-established professionals such as William H. Daniels, Charles Lang, Franz Planer, Leo Tover, and Lawrence Schiller, with no mention of Slatzer. These photographers are recognised for their work on the film, lending credibility to their involvement.

While Slatzer did present these images as evidence of his presence on the set, there is little definitive evidence to support his claim. None of the photographs features Slatzer alongside Marilyn Monroe, and there is no independent corroboration or documentation to verify his presence on the set. Given these factors, it is reasonable to approach Slatzer’s assertions with cynicism and rely on established and credited sources for accurate information regarding Marilyn Monroe and the production of Something’s Got to Give.

However, even if he did manage to get on the set just as he had done with Niagara, this does not necessarily mean he had a personal connection to Marilyn.

CONTROVERSIAL BOOK AND CONSPIRACY THEORIES

In 1974, Slatzer published a book that aimed to provide an intimate account of his alleged marriage and friendship with Marilyn. The book also delved into controversial conspiracy theories surrounding Marilyn’s death, implicating the Kennedy family. However, these claims are met with scepticism. Slatzer’s attempts to have an article published on Monroe’s death conspiracy were rejected by a journalist, and witnesses cited in his book later admitted to fabricating their involvement. Furthermore, there is a lack of evidence supporting the notion of a lifelong relationship between Slatzer and Marilyn.

SELLING MARILYN’S ITEMS

In a troubling pattern of exploitation, Slatzer even attempted to sell items purportedly belonging to Marilyn, using photos of himself alongside her as the only evidence of provenance.

This practice raises significant concerns about the authenticity and legitimacy of the items in question. Without proper documentation or corroborating evidence, relying solely on photographs of Slatzer with Marilyn as proof is highly dubious. It is essential to exercise caution when evaluating such claims and to demand more substantial evidence before accepting any items as genuine Marilyn Monroe artefacts.

The attempt to profit from Marilyn’s fame through the sale of items tied to her name, with weak or nonexistent provenance, further highlights the need for careful scrutiny and critical analysis when engaging with the complex web of Marilyn Monroe memorabilia. Preserving the integrity and authenticity of her legacy is of utmost importance, and it is crucial to approach claims of ownership with caution until supported by rigorous documentation and evidence.

SCHOLORARY CONSENSUS

The claims made by Slatzer are widely disputed by Marilyn Monroe’s biographers and historians. The inconsistencies, contradictions, and lack of substantial evidence cast doubt on the authenticity of his alleged relationship with Marilyn. The prevailing scholarly consensus suggests that Slatzer’s accounts are likely fabricated or exaggerated for personal gain.

The story surrounding Robert Slatzer and his connection to Marilyn Monroe remains enshrouded in controversy. While Slatzer presented a narrative filled with intrigue, his claims lack substantial evidence and are marred by inconsistencies. The scholarly community widely rejects his assertions, dismissing them as potentially opportunistic fabrications. As we continue to explore the life and legacy of Marilyn Monroe, it is essential to approach such claims with a critical eye, relying on credible evidence to separate fact from fiction.

Marilyn Monroe and the Robert Kennedy Affair

The relationship between Marilyn Monroe and the Kennedy family has always been a topic of intrigue and speculation. While most of the attention has been focused on Marilyn’s alleged affair with John F. Kennedy, it’s important to shed light on the rumours surrounding her relationship with Robert F. Kennedy, or Bobby, as he was commonly known. In this post, we’ll delve into the claims surrounding their connection and examine the evidence to separate fact from fiction.

The Character of Robert Kennedy

Unlike his brother John, Bobby Kennedy was not known for his promiscuity.

Those who were close to him, like Edwin Guthman, the Department of Justice’s press secretary, attested to his loyalty and devotion to his wife, Ethel. Guthman even stated, “I never saw him pay attention to anyone but his wife” during the five years he travelled with Bobby. The notion that he would risk his marriage to Ethel in 1962 seems highly unlikely, given his reputation as a shy, gentle, and loyal husband.

Origins of the Affair Rumours

The rumours surrounding Marilyn Monroe’s alleged affair with Bobby Kennedy began before August 3, 1962, when columnist Dorothy Kilgallen hinted at Marilyn spending time with an unnamed man. Jean Kennedy Smith, Robert Kennedy’s sister, wrote an undated letter in 1962 to Marilyn, acknowledging the circulating reports. However, Jean later clarified that the letter was written in jest, dismissing any notion of an affair.

A “Handsome Gentleman”

During the 1960s, Marilyn Monroe spent time with several gentlemen, but that doesn’t necessarily imply romantic involvement with all of them. After her divorce from Arthur Miller, Marilyn had an agreement with her ex-husband Joe DiMaggio to see other people. She was seen in the company of Joe, Frank Sinatra, Jose Bolanos, and very likely John F. Kennedy. But what about Bobby?

 

Dorothy Kilgallen, the infamous gossip columnist, suggested in August 1962 that Marilyn was involved with a mystery man, possibly a Kennedy brother or Frank Sinatra. However, the actual name was never confirmed in print. Kilgallen later claimed it was a reference to Robert Kennedy, but her credibility has been questioned. She is said to have received this information from her interior decorator friend, Howard Rothberg, who had no direct connection to Marilyn. It’s worth noting that an alleged CIA document supporting this claim is widely considered a forgery.

The Involvement of FBI and Conspiracy Theories

J. Edgar Hoover, the director of the FBI, had a file on Marilyn Monroe since 1956, long before her interactions with the Kennedy brothers. Hoover’s scrutiny extended to various public figures, including Charlie Chaplin, Andy Warhol, and Walt Disney, suggesting a pattern of moral surveillance. William Sullivan, Deputy Director of the FBI, acknowledged that the stories of Bobby Kennedy’s affair with Marilyn were baseless, originating from a right-wing journalist known for spinning wild yarns. Hoover eagerly fuelled these rumours.

Insights from Those Close to Bobby and Marilyn

People close to Bobby Kennedy, such as Edwin Guthman, expressed that he had no interest in pursuing an affair. Marilyn herself denied the tales, and her friends, including Sidney Skolsky, Milton Ebbins, Joseph Naar, and William Asher, insist that the relationship between Marilyn and Bobby was platonic. Claims of alleged sexual acts between Marilyn and the Kennedy brothers are unsubstantiated, with no evidence to support them.

MARILYN & RFK: A Timeline of Alleged Meetings

While it is evident that Marilyn and Bobby had interactions, it’s crucial to examine the timeline of their encounters.

*Note: The following timeline provides an overview of Marilyn Monroe and Robert F. Kennedy’s interactions based on available information and testimonies. It is important to acknowledge that some details may be subject to interpretation and varying accounts.

October 1961: According to Edwin Guthman, Marilyn attended a dinner party at the home of Peter and Pat Lawford. It is mentioned that Marilyn may have had too much champagne and that Guthman and Bobby Kennedy drove her home. However, Marilyn had written to her ex-stepson in February 1962 stating she met RFK the day before the letter was written instead.


18 November 1961: There are rumours that Marilyn and Bobby were together on this date. However, Marilyn was in Los Angeles with photographer Douglas Kirkland, while Bobby was in New York.

1 February 1962: Marilyn wrote a letter to Bobby Miller, her former stepson, describing her dinner with Robert Kennedy. She expressed admiration for his intelligence and sense of humour. The event took place at the home of Pat and Peter Lawford, with numerous guests in attendance. Marilyn and Bobby had a conversation about civil rights, with Marilyn expressing her concerns and receiving answers from Bobby. This interaction appears to have been cordial and intellectual. This was the first meeting between the two.

19 May 1962: Marilyn famously sang “Happy Birthday” to President John F. Kennedy at Madison Square Garden during a birthday gala. After the event, Marilyn and other performers, including Pat Newcomb and Isidore Miller, attended an after-party celebration at the home of Arthur Krim. Marilyn briefly spoke with the President and Robert Kennedy, as documented in photographs from the evening. Afterwards, Marilyn accompanied Isidore back to his Brooklyn home before returning to her own residence. This event is significant because it marks one of the few occasions where Marilyn and the Kennedys are photographed together.

13 June 1962: Marilyn declined an invitation to a dinner party hosted by Bobby and Ethel Kennedy. The reason for her absence is unclear, but it is speculated that she may have used a “freedom ride protest” as an excuse to avoid attending.

26/27 June 1962: According to Donald Spoto’s biography, Marilyn was picked up by Pat and Peter Lawford from her Brentwood home to attend a party at their residence. Bobby Kennedy was reportedly with them on June 27. It is suggested that Marilyn gave them a tour of her new home. Marilyn’s housekeeper, Eunice Murray, stated that Marilyn did not engage in any clandestine activities with Mr Kennedy or have a love affair with him.

While these instances provide glimpses into Marilyn and Bobby’s interactions, it is crucial to emphasise that no concrete evidence supports a romantic relationship between them. Marilyn’s phone records indicate phone calls to a Washington number in July 1962, likely connected to Bobby, but the nature of these calls was not secretive and was common knowledge.

The rumours of an affair between Marilyn Monroe and Robert F. Kennedy have persisted over the years, despite the lack of credible evidence. While Marilyn had encounters with Bobby and made phone calls to him, there is no concrete proof of a romantic relationship. Bobby’s loyalty to his wife and Marilyn’s own statements, along with testimonies from their friends, point toward a platonic connection. It’s essential to separate gossip from facts and acknowledge the unfounded nature of these anecdotes, which continue to circulate without credible substantiation.

The Husbands of Marilyn Monroe: Dispelling the Myths

One of the most intriguing aspects of Marilyn Monroe’s life is her relationships with various husbands. All three men met Marilyn at different stages of her life and career. Let’s take a closer look at her marriages and debunk some of the common misconceptions and confirm the truths surrounding their unions.

JAMES DOUGHERTY

“Norma Jeane Was Happiest with Jimmy”

Contrary to popular belief, Marilyn Monroe later admitted that her “last two” marriages (referring to Joe DiMaggio and Arthur Miller) were her happiest. She even expressed her dissatisfaction with her relationship with Jimmy Dougherty.

“Norma Jeane Wanted a Baby”

There have been claims by biographers and Jimmy himself that Norma Jeane wanted to have a baby to keep him from leaving for the merchant marines. However, considering her young age at the time, it is unlikely she would have willingly taken on such a responsibility. Whether she intended to have a child remains a mystery, and speculation should be approached with caution.

“Jimmy Was the Only One to Treat Her Right”

While some argue that Norma Jeane would have been better off with Jimmy compared to her later husbands, Marilyn herself stated that she was unhappy in her marriage to him. In conversations with friends, she revealed, “All I wanted was to find out who I was. Jim thought he knew, and that I should have been satisfied. But I wasn’t. That marriage was over long before the war ended.” Additionally, her personal notes and biographies by authors such as Maurice Zolotow indicate instances of infidelity and physical altercations in their relationship.

“Jimmy Wanted Her to Quit Modelling”

It is true that Jimmy expressed his dissatisfaction with Marilyn’s modelling career. In a letter to her, he wrote, “All this business of modeling is fine, but when I get out of the service, we’re going to have a family, and you’re going to settle down. You can only have one career, and a woman can’t be two places at once.” Although this perspective was common in the 1940s, Marilyn’s desire to pursue her career led her to file for divorce.

“Their Sex Life Was Satisfying”

Jimmy claimed that he and Norma Jeane had a fulfilling sex life, considering himself a fortunate man. However, Marilyn’s own words tell a different story. She admitted, “I wasn’t very well informed about sex. Let’s just say that some things seemed more natural to me than others. I just wanted to please him, and at first, I found it all a little strange. I didn’t know if I was doing it right.” It is clear that Marilyn had her own uncertainties and challenges in their intimate relationship.

“Norma Jeane Was Faithful to Jimmy”

For many years, it was widely believed that Andre De Dienes fabricated his affair with Norma Jeane. Marilyn herself had stated that she remained faithful to Jimmy. However, evidence supporting De Dienes’ claim emerged in 2019 during an auction. Letters and telegrams with expressions of love and longing showcased a relationship that extended beyond the professional realm.

“My Dearest W.W. I’m so much in love with / you, Andre my darling…Don’t worry W.W. I’m being / a good girl. I wouldn’t for / the world be insincere toward / you… / all I / think about is Andre, Andre, / Andre. When will he ever get / here”

Norma Jeane & Jimmy

Norma Jeane and Jimmy married initially out of necessity to save her from returning to the orphanage, but they clearly felt a deep care for one another and made efforts to make things work. Being so young and inexperienced, filled with aspirations, must have been a challenging experience for Norma Jeane. However, she bravely made the decision to leave her husband to pursue a career.

JOE DIMAGGIO

“Marilyn Was Seeing Other Men While with Joe”

It is often claimed that Marilyn Monroe was involved with other men while she was married to Joe DiMaggio. However, it is essential to approach these claims with scepticism. Photographer Sam Shaw once remarked, “If Marilyn slept with every guy that claims he was with her, she would have never had time to make any movies.” One such claim comes from book critic Robert Slatzer, who stated that he and Marilyn eloped and got married in 1952 while she was still dating Joe DiMaggio. However, there is no concrete evidence to support Slatzer’s assertions, and his credibility is questionable. The only verifiable encounters he had with Marilyn were during the filming of Niagara in 1952. Slatzer later became known for making sensationalised claims about his relationship with Marilyn, and many of his statements have been debunked. It is important to exercise caution when considering the validity of his claims. Similarly, claims made by unreliable biographers and acquaintances of Marilyn, such as Milton Greene and William Travilla, lack solid evidence and should be treated as unlikely until proven otherwise.

“Joe Wouldn’t Let Marilyn Out of His Sight”

While it is true that Joe DiMaggio spent a significant amount of time with Marilyn as her partner and husband, it is important to recognise that Marilyn had a life beyond their relationship.

Joe often accompanied Marilyn to dinners and parties but would leave her at the door to attend to his own pursuits. Marilyn had her own schedule and commitments, which sometimes prevented them from spending as much time together as they would have liked. Marilyn herself explained that their busy schedules often made it difficult for them to coordinate their activities. For example, when asked why Joe wasn’t with her during the filming of The Seven Year Itch, Marilyn said, “We just can’t seem to fit the schedules together.” While it is true that Joe had a preference for privacy, their inability to spend every moment together was primarily due to their conflicting commitments, rather than Joe’s possessiveness or introversion.

“Joe Didn’t Support Her Achievements”

Contrary to the claim that Joe DiMaggio didn’t support Marilyn’s accomplishments, he played a significant role in her career. Joe recognised the mistreatment Marilyn faced from the studio and helped her negotiate better terms for her contracts. He advised her on financial matters and encouraged her to hire a business manager to ensure her professional and personal life was well organised. While Joe may have preferred to stay out of the spotlight himself, it does not indicate a lack of support for Marilyn. In fact, he made efforts to accommodate her career and provide guidance whenever possible. Marilyn herself acknowledged Joe’s reservations about attending events and premieres, stating, “He hates premieres and parties. So do I. But it’s my business to go. It makes no difference that we’re married. Joe has always been like this. I knew what he was like before we were married.” It is essential to understand Joe’s preferences and recognize that Marilyn accepted them as part of their relationship.

“Their Marriage Was a Publicity Stunt”

Claims that Joe and Marilyn’s marriage was a publicity stunt are unfounded. Marilyn Monroe herself expressed that their decision to marry was driven by a desire to establish a committed relationship rather than continue as long-distance lovers. She acknowledged the challenges they faced due to their respective careers and believed marriage would provide them with stability and the opportunity to be together without scandal. The notion that their marriage was merely a publicity stunt overlooks their genuine intentions and the complexities of their relationship.

“Joe Was Jealous of Marilyn’s Fame”

Joe DiMaggio, being a renowned figure in baseball history, was famous in his own right. Contrary to the claim that he was jealous of Marilyn’s fame, Joe’s own words and actions demonstrate otherwise. He expressed his preference for a private life away from the spotlight and appreciated the normalcy he found with Marilyn. In an interview, Joe stated, “Like any other guy with a job, I liked a private life when the day’s work was done. This was seldom possible. Since I’ve been married to Marilyn, I’ve led a normal, quiet life. Of course, I’m out of baseball now, and that makes a difference.” Joe’s desire for privacy should not be misconstrued as jealousy or resentment toward Marilyn’s success. Instead, it was a personal preference that he maintained throughout their relationship and his own life.

“Joe Was Physically Abusive to Marilyn”

Accusations of physical abuse by Joe DiMaggio towards Marilyn Monroe lack solid evidence and primarily stem from questionable sources. While it is acknowledged that domestic violence was, unfortunately, more prevalent during that era, particularly within marriages, no reliable sources, including Joe, Marilyn or Arthur Miller (her third husband), have confirmed such claims. The few statements suggesting physical abuse come from unnamed individuals or sources of questionable credibility. It is crucial to approach these allegations with caution and consider the lack of concrete proof.

Allan “Whitey” Snyder stated to Anthony Summers, “he beat her up a bit” but whether this was witnessed or spoken about between Marilyn and Whitey cannot be certain. In addition, Whitey had made questionable claims about other relationships Marilyn had including with Robert Slatzer who has been confirmed by researchers as being a serial fabricator.

An unnamed publicist claimed, “Joe wasn’t any great hero in Marilyn’s life. He was vicious. He couldn’t have treated her worse. He beat the hell out of her and she was terrified. He continued bothering her months after their divorce. It seems nice and considerate not to talk to anybody because of his precious memories, but he was rotten to her. I’m not sure how they got back as friends near the end… I know their friendship was blown out of all proportion by the newspapers.”

Another unnamed friend of Joe’s had supposedly said, “He was smacking her around, yes.”

Other rumours have circulated such as a broken thumb Marilyn had in 1954 before their time in Asia. Marilyn claimed, “I just bumped it.” There have been many origins to the broken thumb but none can be verified.

She was also seen with a large bruise on her right arm whilst visiting Marlon Brando on the set of Desiree whilst she was filming There’s No Business Like Show Business.

According to Bunny Gardel (Fox make-up artist), Marilyn would bruise easily during this time. But Bunny had not worked with Marilyn during her relationship with Joe DiMaggio, so it is unlikely how she would have known this for certain. Marilyn had said to reporters that she bit herself in her sleep. Marilyn also had an iron deficiency which can lead to bruising.

It should be pointed out that a bruise doesn’t equal abuse. At the same time just because someone has said how they achieved bruises or injuries, doesn’t mean they’re telling the truth. However, Joe shouldn’t be blamed for every bruise seen on Marilyn. For example, the images above show bruising but the images are taken whilst Marilyn was married to Arthur.

Did Marilyn leave Joe because of the abuse? When asked by Maurice Zolotow the real reason why she divorced Joe, she said, “For the reasons I gave in court. I know a lot of women, when they’re getting a divorce they put out reasons which are not the true reasons. But I said the truth. He didn’t talk to me. He was cold. He was indifferent to me as a human being and an artist. He didn’t want me to have friends of my own. He didn’t want me to do my work. He really watched television instead of talking to me. So what I said in my testimony was really so.”

Moreover, it is worth noting that Marilyn had previously been open about her experiences with abuse from her childhood but never mentioned any abuse from Joe later in her life. The subject remains sensitive and should be handled with care.

“Joe Physically Abused Her After She Filmed The Seven Year Itch Subway Grate Scene”

Claims of physical abuse after Marilyn filmed the famous subway grate scene in The Seven Year Itch are based on anecdotal accounts that lack solid substantiation. While it is known that Joe was unhappy with the provocative nature of the scene, the extent of any argument or physical altercation that might have occurred afterwards remains uncertain. Some accounts suggest witnesses overheard shouting coming from Marilyn and Joe’s hotel room that night, but the specifics and the presence of physical abuse are difficult to confirm.

One of the earliest mentions of a fight that night comes via Norman Mailer in 1973, stating that hotel guests in nearby rooms heard “shouting, scuffling, and weeping before the dawn”. From that point on it is hard to tell whether people witnessed much of this abuse or they were getting their information from Mailer’s book (which he admitted he mostly got from speculation). People in the hotel did witness shouting coming from Marilyn and Joe’s room. But was it a violent argument?

Amy Greene reportedly said to Anthony Summers in 1983, “her back was black and blue – I couldn’t believe it.” However, on camera in the documentary Love, Marilyn, Amy questions where these claims came from. She doesn’t deny his anger on set but goes on to state that Joe is “one of my Gods” and that she would never “say anything bad about Joe DiMaggio.” Safe to say IF Amy really did make this statement, she retracted this claim.

Later that day before her flight to LA, on 15 September, after the scene was filmed and the supposed attack occurred, Marilyn was photographed by Philippe Halsman (this was personally confirmed with the official Halsman Instagram account).

No comments were made about her demeanour and Marilyn seemed in good spirits before she and Joe left New York that same day. That’s not to say the marriage wasn’t in trouble… it definitely was. Joe by no means was a good husband to Marilyn.

Gladys Rasmussen, Marilyn’s hairstylist for the film also claimed to Summers in 1983. “They had a suite in a real old, beautiful hotel. And he beat her up a little bit. Marilyn said that she screamed and yelled for us. But we couldn’t hear her through those thick walls … It was more on her shoulders. But with a little makeup, she went ahead and worked.”

However, others have said that they could hear them shouting through the walls contradicting this tale. Not to mention Marilyn and Joe flew home on 16 September so Gladys wouldn’t have seen any bruising the next day as she wasn’t working.

A similar quote from Gladys and Whitey is combined in Spoto’s biography with Gladys claiming, “he beat her up a bit. There were bruises on her shoulders but we covered them with make-up.”

Natasha Lytess who despised Joe and had an odd obsession with Marilyn later made claims of abuse too but Natasha also implied Marilyn was a lesbian and they had a relationship so her testimony cannot be confirmed.

Another source often used to back up this story is hairstylist Sydney Guilaroff. Apparently, Marilyn had said, “Joe beat me up twice… he slapped me around the hotel room.” Sydney Guilaroff is not considered by Marilyn researchers as a reliable source so his testimony on this could be questionable.

It should be noted Joe went to therapy after the divorce and credited Marilyn for him taking this step at a time when therapy was considered not a very masculine task to undertake. He wrote a list of things he wanted to do in order to improve his relationship with Marilyn in 1955. None of these items mentions violence.

He also attended the premiere of The Seven Year Itch with Marilyn in June 1955 something he had not done before. If this scene had enraged him to the point of abusive behaviour, it’s doubtful he would’ve attended a screening with his ex-wife. Needless to say, Marilyn clearly made amends with Joe and forgave him for wrongdoing – whatever that may have been. That’s not to say his behaviour, violence or no violence, was acceptable.

Safe to say that many of the claims of abuse on that night come from questionable sources, were retracted OR were discussed two decades after the event supposedly happened. However, this does not mean it didn’t happen, it just means we have no reliable or sustainable proof.

“Joe Tried to Make Marilyn Quit Her Career as an Actress”

Contrary to the belief that Joe DiMaggio wanted Marilyn to quit her acting career, he actually supported her professional aspirations. Joe left his job in New York to move to Los Angeles with Marilyn, enabling her to pursue her career in the film industry. He actively participated in negotiating her contracts and advised her on financial matters. While it is true that Joe desired a settled life with Marilyn and expressed hopes for starting a family, he recognized Marilyn’s talent and the significance of her work. The notion that he wanted her to give up her career does not align with his actions and support for her professional endeavours.

“Joe Saved Her from Payne Whitney”

While it is often claimed that Joe DiMaggio rescued Marilyn from the Payne Whitney Psychiatric Clinic, the actual sequence of events suggests a different scenario. Marilyn made attempts to contact Joe from the hospital, but he did not have the legal authority to secure her release. It was Dr Marianne Kris who played a crucial role in having Marilyn discharged. However, Joe did provide support to Marilyn during her challenging time, ensuring her subsequent stay at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital for rest and recovery.

“Marilyn and Joe Were Going to Get Remarried in 1962”

After Marilyn Monroe’s divorce from Arthur Miller, Joe DiMaggio expressed interest in reconnecting with her. They spent time together during the last years of Marilyn’s life, prompting media speculation about a potential reconciliation. While it is true that their relationship appeared to grow closer, the claim that they were planning to remarry in 1962 lacks solid evidence. Letters written by Marilyn around the time of her death express her affection for Joe, but they do not indicate concrete plans for marriage. It is important to approach these claims with caution and recognize that their relationship was complex and subject to various interpretations.

“Joe Planned Her Funeral and Banned Many People from Attending”

The notion that Joe DiMaggio planned Marilyn’s funeral and had control over the guest list is incorrect. Inez Melson, Marilyn’s business manager, confirmed in a BBC interview that she was responsible for managing the guest list, and Joe assisted her and Marilyn’s half-sister, Berniece, in making arrangements. While Joe played a role in the funeral proceedings, he did not have the sole authority or decision-making power.

“Joe Sent Flowers to Marilyn’s Grave Until His Death”

It is often claimed that Joe DiMaggio sent flowers to Marilyn’s crypt thrice a week from 1962 to 1982. While this story has become a popular narrative, there is no concrete evidence to substantiate it. The frequency and duration of flower deliveries to Marilyn’s grave remain uncertain, and Joe never publicly commented on the matter.

“Joe Hated the Kennedys”

Contrary to the belief that Joe DiMaggio harboured animosity toward the Kennedys, he expressed support for them and even attended John F. Kennedy’s inauguration. Joe referred to JFK as a “hero” in 1979, indicating his admiration for the Kennedy family.

“Joe’s Dying Words Were ‘I Finally Get to See Marilyn'”

Claims that Joe DiMaggio’s dying words were “I finally get to see Marilyn” are disputed. While his lawyer, Morris Engelberg, claimed that Joe made this statement before passing away, Joe’s brother, Dom DiMaggio, has refuted this claim. Moreover, due to the effects of pain medication, it is unlikely that Joe would have been able to articulate such words before his death. The accuracy of this statement remains uncertain.

Marilyn & Joe

While I do not condone Joe’s actions if the abuse allegations against him are true, it is important to acknowledge that there is limited evidence suggesting he was violent towards Marilyn. I want to emphasise that this lack of evidence does not make it impossible.

Apart from a few unsubstantiated claims of violence and his emotionally abusive behaviour during their marriage, there is little else I have come across to imply that Joe was a “bad person.” In fact, overall, Joe was a fairly decent guy, particularly after their divorce. He displayed a remarkable amount of charity, was great with children, and was well-liked by his peers. It’s worth noting that he was there for Marilyn when she needed him, even when he was likely the only person not on her payroll. This aspect holds significance to me. Despite being a flawed husband, Joe seemed to have made efforts to improve himself and be the supportive person Marilyn needed, whenever she needed him. Though it was too late to salvage their romantic relationship, it didn’t deter him from being a good friend to Marilyn.

In my personal opinion, those who vehemently dislike Joe solely based on the abuse speculations tend to overlook all the positive things he did for Marilyn, which is undeniably unfair. If you are interested in learning more about his relationship with Marilyn, I recommend reading the insightful work by Silver Technicolor, who also assisted me in fact-checking this post.

ARTHUR MILLER

“Arthur Used Her For Fame”

Arthur Miller was already an accomplished Pulitzer Prize-winning playwright before he met Marilyn Monroe. In fact, Marilyn was a fan of his work even before they became romantically involved. With over a dozen plays to his name, Miller was well-known in the literary world, and some people speculated that Marilyn was using him to gain credibility and recognition in the industry. However, it’s important to note that their relationship was more complex than a mere transaction of fame.

While it is true that Marilyn’s addiction to prescription pills and her constant need for validation through acting coaches put a strain on their marriage, it is unfair to suggest that Arthur used her for his own gain. Marilyn’s personal struggles and demanding schedule undoubtedly had an impact on Miller’s own work. In a September 1956 interview, Miller stated that Marilyn would focus on being his wife for the majority of the year, with limited time for acting projects. Their relationship required a considerable amount of attention and effort, making it a challenging task for both of them.

“Arthur Was The Reason Why She Stopped Talking To Milton Greene”

It has been suggested that Arthur’s jealousy of Milton Greene led to Marilyn severing ties with him and dissolving their partnership with Marilyn Monroe Productions. However, evidence suggests that there were preexisting tensions between Marilyn and Milton before Arthur entered the picture. In a letter from Arthur to Marilyn in 1956, he acknowledged the strained relationship between Marilyn and Milton, stating that he would take charge of handling their business affairs. While Arthur may have had his own insecurities, the issues with Milton were multifaceted and extended beyond any jealousy Arthur may have felt.

“Marilyn Was The Insecure One In The Relationship”

It is true that Marilyn struggled with insecurities throughout her life, but Arthur Miller also experienced moments of jealousy and insecurity in their relationship. In June 1956, he wrote a letter to Marilyn begging her to love him and expressing his fears of not being able to satisfy her.

“The main thing I saw was that it had all worked to make me unconsciously jealous of you and fearful that in fact I was not ‘big enough’ for you, and could not satisfy you either sexually or as a friend and a man. To say that I do not satisfy you implies that someone else could. In turn, I am therefore in danger of being ‘replaced.’ The final development, therefore, is withdrawal to one degree or another, and the deadening by degrees of my confidence in myself in relation to you.”

On September 21, 1956, he wrote: “I am going to do a risky thing. I am going to try to tell you as precisely as I know how what has been going on in me—but beyond the point where my defenses stand…. One of the feelings in me is jealousy…. I only realize now that certain things began to press in on me, some of them very subtle, until the point has come where I must face them for both our sakes so that they may be understood and be deprived of their effect on me.”

This demonstrates that both Marilyn and Arthur had their own vulnerabilities and doubts within the relationship.

“Arthur Ran Away To NYC After ‘The Diary Incident'”

The “diary incident” occurred during Marilyn and Arthur’s trip to England in 1956, where Marilyn discovered Arthur’s negative and insulting remarks about her in his diary. This discovery deeply hurt Marilyn, as she felt betrayed and exposed. While it is unclear whether Arthur intended for Marilyn to read his personal journal, the incident left a lasting impact on their marriage.

Ralph Roberts had spoken to Marilyn about it briefly during a massage in 1960, with Paula Strasberg telling him that Arthur had written, “I’ve really done it. I thought I was marrying an angel, and find I’ve married a whore.” Paula told Roberts that she managed to convince Marilyn that his artistic ego had been “battered to such an extent he had to flail out at her.”

Contrary to the notion that Arthur fled to New York City to avoid confrontation, his departure had been pre-planned to address his legal issues with the House Un-American Activities Committee. The incident itself and the subsequent fallout significantly strained their relationship.

“Marilyn was pregnant with Arthur’s baby during the filming of The Sleeping Prince“

There was speculation in 1956 that Marilyn’s absences were a result of pregnancy-induced illness. This was not the case. Marilyn is confirmed to have been pregnant in 1957 resulting in an ectopic pregnancy and in 1958 ending in miscarriage. Arthur discusses the first pregnancy as being in 1957 so any earlier than that can be dismissed.

“Arthur made money from being married to Marilyn”

This is partly true. Marilyn had made Arthur Vice President of Marilyn Monroe Productions after she and Milton parted ways meaning he had a share in the company.

Marilyn also wrote several checks to Arthur totalling $47,300.00

Arthur also went against a writer’s strike in order to help with the scriptwriting of Let’s Make Love just like he had offered to do with The Sleeping Prince (“I can go through the script and make the changes”).

“Arthur Didn’t Help Marilyn With Her Addiction”

Marilyn Monroe’s struggles with addiction to prescription pills began in 1956, and it is true that Arthur Miller was not successful in helping her overcome this addiction. However, it is essential to understand the complexities of addiction and the difficulties of breaking free from such substances. Marilyn’s addiction was deeply ingrained, and despite various attempts to intervene, she continued to struggle with it. While Arthur may have had a role to play in supporting her, ultimately, overcoming addiction is a personal journey that requires the individual’s commitment and determination.

“Arthur Used The Misfits To Punish Marilyn”

The filming of The Misfits marked a turning point in Marilyn and Arthur’s marriage. Some believe that Arthur intentionally crafted a personal script that exposed and mocked Marilyn’s life, contributing to the breakdown of their relationship. While it is true that the movie touched on personal aspects of Marilyn’s life, it is unfair to suggest that Arthur used the film to punish her. The challenges they faced during the production, combined with the strain on their relationship, ultimately led to their separation, not the film itself.

“Arthur Left Marilyn In 1960”

Contrary to the claim that Arthur left Marilyn, it was Marilyn who initiated the end of their marriage. According to diary entries from Ralph Roberts, Marilyn confronted Arthur and asked him to leave, expressing that she had finally had enough. Although Marilyn had been involved in an affair with Yves Montand during the filming of Let’s Make Love, it was her decision to end the marriage. Despite the dramatic ending, Marilyn and Arthur later spoke respectfully of their marriage in the press, indicating that they had made peace with their past.

“Arthur Didn’t Love Marilyn”

During the early stages of their relationship, Arthur and Marilyn were deeply in love. Their letters to each other reveal their affection and appreciation for one another. However, as their marriage progressed, they faced numerous challenges, including career pressures, personal struggles, and the loss of their children. These factors put a strain on their relationship, causing both of them to question their compatibility and abilities to meet each other’s needs. While their love may have waned over time, it is important to acknowledge the genuine affection that existed between them in the beginning.

“Arthur Didn’t Care About His Son Daniel”

Arthur and his third wife Inge Morath had a son named Daniel, who was born with Down Syndrome in 1966. It is true that Arthur made the difficult decision to institutionalise Daniel shortly after his birth. This decision, although heartbreaking, was made at a time when society had limited knowledge, understanding, and support for individuals with Down Syndrome. It is essential to recognise the social context in which this decision was made and the lack of available resources at that time. It is evident that Arthur and Inge’s choice was a painful one, as they grappled with the realities of raising a child with special needs.

“Arthur Wasn’t Invited To The Funeral”

The details regarding Arthur Miller’s invitation to Marilyn’s funeral remain uncertain due to the lack of an initial invite list. It is unclear whether he was asked personally by Marilyn’s close family members and declined or if his absence was a result of other factors. In an unpublished essay, Arthur expressed his decision to stay home rather than attend the funeral to avoid mockery and false mourners. It is important to note that his absence does not necessarily indicate a lack of care or concern for Marilyn’s passing. The circumstances surrounding his non-attendance remain a subject of speculation.

Marilyn & Arthur

Being married to Marilyn at that time in her life would not have been an easy experience. She was struggling with her self-esteem and mental health. But Arthur endured and continued to try and make it work. Outsiders looking in would later comment on how cruel Marilyn would be to Arthur at times. Perhaps Marilyn was attempting to get a reaction out of him. Again, we cannot judge, we can only surmise.

Arthur encountered a lot with Marilyn. They lost two children together and everything they did was in the public eye. Other than his passionate love letters to Marilyn, his telegram to Billy Wilder demonstrated how much he cared for his wife.

It’s a shame it did not work but they were not meant to be.

What is unfortunate, from my perspective, is how Arthur felt it was appropriate to release a play, two years after Marilyn’s death, based on their marriage. The parallels are hauntingly similar and in poor taste.

Arthur had begun to write After The Fall when still married to Marilyn and eventually completed it and had it produced in 1964. This would’ve broken Marilyn if she had still been alive. His own friends such as Norman Rosten felt this was distasteful and disrespectful. Which it was.

WJ Weatherby stated, “Miller was obviously writing out of deep personal experience and, although Maggie was only a shadow of Marilyn – the other side of Roslyn in The Misfits, the missing side that made her unsatisfying in the movie and hard for Monroe to make convincing – it was easy to see how Miller thought Marilyn had died, and why. But many admirers of hers were indignant at the portrait and the interpretation. James Baldwin, for example, was seen stalking up the aisle and out of the theatre before the end of the play.”

From Rebecca Miller’s documentary about her father, “The play addressed his own failure to ‘save’ Marilyn, and the realisation that ‘people were far more difficult to change than I had allowed myself to believe.’ It was a success, but due to its shocking portrayal of Monroe’s downfall, was subject to ‘ugly, strident criticism’ and ‘vicious attacks’ in the press. ‘I managed to have an illusion that this wasn’t really Marilyn,’ Miller says, ‘… but it was close enough …’”

Arthur was married to Inge until her death. Arthur soon was in a relationship, with Agnes Barley who was almost 50 years younger than him.

Marilyn Monroe & JFK – The Truths of an Infamous Affair

For decades, rumours of a passionate affair between Marilyn Monroe and President John F. Kennedy have captivated the public’s imagination.

However, a closer examination reveals that the truth behind their relationship is far less sensational than gossip magazines would have you believe.

Both John F. Kennedy and Marilyn Monroe are known for their involvement in extramarital affairs, but the evidence surrounding their specific relationship remains inconclusive.

While Marilyn had been romantically involved whilst she was married and with married men

  • Johnny Hyde
  • Andre De Dienes
  • Elia Kazan
  • Arthur Miller
  • Yves Montand

JFK’s alleged affairs include women like Mimi Alford, Judith Exner, and Marlene Dietrich, among others. Nevertheless, it’s crucial to consider the varying degrees of evidence supporting these claims before drawing any conclusions.

 

The Origins of the Affair

The earliest mention of Marilyn’s connection with an “unnamed man” was made by gossip columnist Dorothy Kilgallen in 1962.

It’s important to note that Marilyn associated with multiple gentlemen during the 1960s including Frank Sinatra and Joe DiMaggio, but these relationships weren’t necessarily romantic or sexual in nature.

Kilgallen’s insinuations about Marilyn’s love affair were never explicitly confirmed in writing, but supposedly she later hinted that the man in question might have been Robert Kennedy, JFK’s brother though this theory remains unproven.

Jean Kennedy Smith, their sister, joked in a letter to Marilyn stating, “Understand that you and Bobby are the new item! We all think you should come with him when he comes back East!”

Jean later stated that the idea of an affair before the letter was auctioned was “utter nonsense.”

The CIA Document

An alleged CIA document, now believed to be a forgery, claimed that Kilgallen obtained information about Marilyn and the Kennedys through her interior decorator friend, Howard Rothberg. However, there is no direct evidence linking Marilyn to the CIA or substantiating the claims made in the document. Experts have deemed it a fake due to its dubious authenticity and sensational language.

1. Rothberg discussed the apparent comeback of subject with Kilgallen and the break up with the Kennedys. Rothberg told Kilgallen that she was attending Hollywood parties hosted by the “inner circle” among Hollywood’s elite and was becoming the talk of the town again. Rothberg indicated in so many words, that she had secrets to tell, no doubt arising from her trists with the President and the Attorney General. One such “secret” mentions the visit by the President at a secret air base for the purpose of inspecting things from outer space. Kilgallen replied that she knew what might be the source of visit. In the mid-fifties Kilgallen learned of secret effort by US and UK governments to identify the origins of crashed spacecraft and dead bodies, from a British government official. Kilgallen believed the story may have come from the New Mexico story in the late forties. Kilgallen said that if the story is true, it would cause terrible embarrassment for Jack and his plans to have NASA put men on the moon.

 

2. Subject repeatedly called the Attorney General and complained about the way she was being ignored by the President and his brother.

 

3. Subject threatened to hold a press conference and would tell all.

 

4. Subject made reference to “bases” in Cuba and knew of the President’s plan to kill Castro.

 

5. Subject made reference to her “diary of secrets” and what the newspapers would do with such disclosures.

 

ROBERT SLATZER

The most significant claims about the affair between Marilyn and JFK emerged in the 1970s through Robert Slatzer, who also claimed he had been romantically involved with Marilyn in the early 1950s. 

However, Slatzer’s allegations lack reliable evidence and have been debunked by various sources.

Slatzer’s claims can be examined and scrutinised to understand their lack of credibility:

  •  Meeting Marilyn in 1946: Slatzer asserts that he met Marilyn in 1946, but there is no concrete proof to support this claim. Without any substantial evidence or documentation, it becomes difficult to validate his alleged connection with Marilyn during that time.
  • Marriage claim in Mexico in 1952: Slatzer asserts that he married Marilyn in Mexico in 1952, even though she was dating Joe DiMaggio at the time. However, Marilyn was photographed and reported to be in Los Angeles on the supposed date of their marriage. Moreover, Slatzer fails to provide any documentation or proof of this event, making his claim highly dubious. The only evidence linking Slatzer to Marilyn is some photos taken on the set of the film Niagara. It was common for Marilyn to pose flirtatiously with press, colleagues, photographers and fans so these images don’t prove a romantic relationship.
  • Involvement with Marilyn and magazine articles: Slatzer was featured in numerous articles from 1952 to 1957. It is rumoured that Marilyn and her then-husband Arthur Miller were upset by Slatzer’s claims. Given Marilyn’s tendency to cut off people who upset her, it is highly unlikely that she would maintain contact with Slatzer, especially considering the number of articles published about him during that period. Slatzer’s assertion that Marilyn constantly called him and confided in him about the Kennedys lacks credibility and is unsupported by any reliable evidence.
  • Allegation of a political conspiracy surrounding Marilyn’s death: In 1972, Slatzer approached journalist Will Fowler with an article claiming that Marilyn’s death was part of a political conspiracy involving JFK, Robert Kennedy, and Martin Luther King Jr. Fowler rejected the article, and Slatzer later added the claim that he had been married to Marilyn. However, Fowler refuted Slatzer’s assertions and labelled him as a pretender, emphasising that Slatzer was never married to Marilyn and had only met her once at Niagara Falls.
  • Questionable witnesses and lack of corroboration: Slatzer managed to find a witness named Noble Chissell, a former boxer and friend, who claimed to have been present at his supposed wedding to Marilyn. However, Chissell later admitted that he had lied to help Slatzer, motivated by financial difficulties. Slatzer’s ex-wife from 1954 to 1956 also stated that she had never heard of this secret wedding until 1974, twenty years after their marriage. These inconsistencies raise further doubts about Slatzer’s credibility.
  • Lack of recognition in Marilyn’s circle: None of the people in Marilyn’s close circle had ever heard of Slatzer until an article was published in Oui magazine in 1974, coinciding with the release of Slatzer’s book. Marilyn’s makeup artist, Allan “Whitey” Snyder, who signed off on a foreword for Slatzer’s book and supported the claims of Marilyn and Slazter’s friendship to Norman Mailer, admitted that he did so out of financial need. There is no evidence of Slatzer’s name in Marilyn’s address book or any correspondence between them. Given Marilyn’s private nature and her value of loyalty in her friendships, it is highly unlikely that she would maintain contact with Slatzer after the damaging Confidential article published in 1957.

His word alone cannot be considered a credible basis for confirming Marilyn and JFK’s relationship.

MARILYN & JFK: A Timeline of Alleged Meetings

Examining the timeline of Marilyn and JFK’s alleged encounters reveals a lack of concrete evidence supporting a substantial affair.

11 April 1957: Marilyn Monroe and her third husband, Arthur Miller, attended the April in Paris Ball at the Waldorf Hotel. Senator John F. Kennedy and his wife, Jacqueline, were also present among the 1,300 guests. While it’s uncertain if Marilyn met the future president and First Lady, this event marks the first known occasion where they were in the same room. 

23 and 24 September 1961: According to biographer Keith Badman, Marilyn and her friend Pat Newcomb were in Hyannis Port with JFK and Jackie on these dates. However, there are conflicting reports regarding Frank Sinatra’s presence. Press accounts mention an “unidentified” couple at the event on 22 September, but White House records indicate that Sinatra was at the White House on 21 September and not necessarily in Hyannis Port.

Sunday, 24 September 1961: On 18 September 1961, Marilyn informed Ralph Roberts that she needed to return to New York for business. On 22 September, she and Ralph flew to NYC, but their plane experienced engine trouble and had to turn back. Marilyn sent a telegram to Joe DiMaggio using a pseudonym, indicating the incident and her plans to fly out again at 5 pm. Although there is no published confirmation of Marilyn’s flight that day or her exact destination, it is more likely that she spent time with Joe and the Strasbergs on the 24 September..

October 1961: Allan ‘Whitey’ Snyder, Marilyn’s makeup artist, claimed to have accompanied her to a party at Peter and Pat Lawford’s home in Santa Monica, which was supposedly held in honour of President Kennedy. However, it’s important to note that Kennedy did not visit Los Angeles in October 1961, though he attended a dinner there in November 1961. It remains unclear if Marilyn was officially listed as a guest at this event.

18 November 1961: John F. Kennedy delivered a speech at the Hollywood Palladium in Los Angeles, leading some to speculate that Marilyn may have met him afterwards. However, on that evening, Marilyn met with photographer Douglas Kirkland to review photo proofs from a previous session. Although Kennedy returned to the Beverly Hills Hotel and briefly attended a dinner there, no guests claim to have seen Marilyn in attendance.

5 December 1961: President Kennedy delivered a speech addressing the National Football Foundation at the Waldorf Astoria. Some suggest Marilyn was present but arrived a couple of hours late due to her hair appointment with Kenneth Battelle. However, there is no press coverage, photographic evidence, or solid proof of her attendance or association with Mr Kenneth on that date. Dr Engleberg’s bill indicates a visit to Marilyn in LA on 4 December, making it unlikely that she flew to NYC and returned before 8 December.

February 1962: According to biographer Donald Spoto, Marilyn’s talent manager, Milton Ebbins, claimed to have escorted her to a fundraiser dinner party at Fifi Fell’s home in February 1962 (often confused with a December fundraiser, despite Marilyn not being in NYC). However, JFK’s diary indicates he was in Virginia throughout the dates Marilyn was purportedly in NYC, making it impossible for them both to have been in attendance. 

24 March 1962: Marilyn called Ralph Roberts to inform him that she would be staying at Bing Crosby’s home in Palm Springs on Saturday, 24 March 1962. She also is said to have called Roberts from her room at Palm Springs where the President was also present. While President Kennedy’s movements are not recorded for that day other than him being at the compound, claims by Philip Watson, the Los Angeles county assessor, that Marilyn was with JFK by the pool lack verifiable evidence. From Palm Springs, Marilyn allegedly called Ralph again and put JFK on the phone to discuss a bet about thigh bones. However, the presence of the President at Bing Crosby’s property cannot be verified, as no one was allowed access due to security.

April 1962: There are claims of a dinner party at Fifi Fell’s home in April 1962, but Marilyn spent most of that month in Los Angeles, preparing for the film “Something’s Got To Give.” There is no record of Kennedy being in New York in April 1962, casting doubt on this alleged encounter.

19 May 1962: At Madison Square Garden in New York City, Marilyn Monroe sang “Happy Birthday” to President John F. Kennedy for his upcoming 45th birthday. After the birthday gala, Marilyn and other performers attended an after-party at Arthur Krim’s home, where they mingled with guests such as Maria Callas and Jack Benny. Although Marilyn briefly spoke to the President and Attorney General, there is no photographic evidence of a substantial encounter between Marilyn and the Kennedys. Marilyn later returned to her home after accompanying Isidore back to his Brooklyn residence, where fan James Haspiel claims to have seen her for the last time.

Based on the available evidence and a critical examination of the alleged affair between Marilyn Monroe and John F. Kennedy, it appears that their relationship, if any, was not as dramatic as often portrayed. The most credible account suggests a one-night stand in Palm Springs, while other dates can be debunked with facts and logical analysis. Ultimately, the truth remains elusive, and it is important to approach these claims with skepticism and a focus on substantiated evidence. Marilyn and JFK’s connection, if it existed, was likely fleeting and far less scandalous than the rumors would suggest.

Note: This article solely focuses on Marilyn Monroe and John F. Kennedy’s “relationship” and does not delve into the theories surrounding Marilyn’s death.

Marilyn Monroe & Her Sexuality

In a world obsessed with labelling, Marilyn Monroe’s sexuality has become a subject of intense speculation. Here we will shed light on Marilyn Monroe’s views on sexuality, emphasising the importance of refraining from labelling others, especially when they are no longer here to defend themselves.

The Pitfall of Labels

Labels often create a false sense of security for those who use them. People are quick to assign labels like “queer-baiting” or make assumptions about someone’s sexual orientation without concrete evidence. This trend is not only unfair but also robs individuals of their right to privacy.

The TikTok Generation’s Interpretation

The TikTok generation has taken various aspects of Marilyn Monroe’s life and assigned labels like ADHD, depression, bipolar disorder, and more. While it is essential to raise awareness about mental health, it is equally vital to base such claims on genuine and factual information. The same goes for sexuality.

Understanding Asexuality

Asexuality, as officially defined, refers to the lack of sexual attraction to others or low interest in sexual activity. However, it is crucial to note that Marilyn Monroe’s experiences do not align with asexuality, as she openly discussed her enjoyment of sex in interviews and conversations which you will see below.

Exploring Marilyn Monroe’s Perspective

Marilyn Monroe’s views on sex were often misunderstood or misinterpreted. While she expressed her lack of interest in sex during her early marriage, it is crucial to consider the circumstances surrounding her relationship. Marilyn’s first sexual experience was with a man she married for practical reasons, which may have influenced her perception of sex.

Sexuality in Marilyn’s Words

Marilyn Monroe spoke openly about her thoughts on sexuality, providing valuable insights into her perspective. Consider the following quotes:

 

“A man who kissed me once had said it was very possible, I was a lesbian because I apparently had no response to males – meaning him. I didn’t contradict him because I didn’t know what I was. There were times even when I didn’t feel human and times when all I could think of was dying. There was also the sinister fact that a well-made woman had always thrilled me to look at. Now having fallen in love, I knew what I was. It wasn’t a lesbian.” – Marilyn Monroe to Ben Hecht in 1954.

 “The world and its excitement over sex didn’t seem crazy. In fact, it didn’t seem crazy enough.” – Marilyn Monroe to Ben Hecht in 1954

“I think that sexuality is only attractive when it’s natural and spontaneous. This is where a lot of them miss the boat. And then something I’d just like to spout off on. We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift. Art, real art, comes from it — everything.” – Marilyn Monroe to Richard Meryman in 1962.

“It’s a part of nature. I go along with nature.” – Marilyn Monroe discussing sex to Pete Martin in 1956. 

“I sometimes felt I was hooked on sex, the way an alcoholic is on liquor or a junkie on dope.” – Marilyn Monroe to WJ Weatherby in 1960.

“I was remembering Monty Clift. People who aren’t fit to open the door for him sneer at his homosexuality. What do they know about it? Labels–people love putting labels on each other. Then they feel safe. People tried to make me into a lesbian. I laughed. No sex is wrong if there’s love in it But too often people act like it’s gymnasium work, mechanical. They’d be as satisfied with a machine from a chemist as with another human being. I sometimes felt they were trying to make me into a machine.” – Marilyn Monroe to WJ Weatherby in 1960.

“No director ever said, ‘Now Marilyn, be sexy!’ Sex isn’t a thing apart, it’s all of you. Sometimes, after a scene, somebody will say, ‘Great! Very sexy, Marilyn!’ But I have just done something very natural.” – Marilyn Monroe, LOOK magazine in 1957.

Marilyn Monroe: Unhygienic Slob?

When picturing Marilyn Monroe, we often envision her soft, clear skin, fluffy white-golden locks, and the iconic scent of Chanel No. 5. However, amidst the idolization, there are certain narratives and rumours circulating on the internet that attempt to tarnish her image. In this article, we will address some of these claims, debunking the myths surrounding Marilyn’s alleged lack of hygiene and unkempt appearance.

Trigger Warning: This article contains a discussion surrounding Marilyn’s death.

Lena Pepitone – A Questionable Source

Lena Pepitone, Marilyn’s East Coast housekeeper, had a working relationship with Marilyn, but her book, “Marilyn Confidential,” sensationalises their relationship and includes numerous falsehoods, as expertly debunked by April Chambers. Pepitone makes outlandish claims, including being Marilyn’s confidante and close friend. However, these assertions, along with claims of Marilyn’s lack of bathing, cannot be verified and can be assumed false.

Lena commented on how Marilyn would keep dirty plates under her bed, and would disgustingly let her period spill over her bedsheet.

Ralph Roberts, Marilyn’s masseuse and friend, noted in his book “Mimosa” that Marilyn always referred to Lena as “the Italian woman” rather than by name, suggesting that their relationship might not have been as close as Lena claimed. Additionally, Marilyn’s half-sister Berniece attests that Marilyn never discussed intimate matters with her employees, reinforcing the notion that Lena’s claims are dubious. It is essential to consider these conflicting accounts.

Allan Abbott – Questioning the Appearance

Allan Abbott, the funeral director responsible for Marilyn’s service, claimed in the book “Pardon My Hearse,” co-authored with Gregory Abbott, that Marilyn’s body was unrecognisable when it arrived at the mortuary. The book describes her as an average, ageing woman who had not taken good care of herself. However, it is crucial to remember that the circumstances surrounding her death likely contributed to her appearance not to mention the fact that Marilyn was human. Abbott’s statements, including the mention of Marilyn’s unbleached roots and the need for beauty treatments, are used to shock readers, but they fail to recognise that these are natural aspects of anyone’s natural appearance.

So, was Marilyn a dirty, unhygienic slob who didn’t bathe or take care of herself?

The ridiculous claims made by Lena and rehashed by David Bret, author of “Clark Gable: Tormented Star,” suggest that Marilyn was unhygienic, frequently drunk, and used her sheets as a napkin. However, there are pieces of evidence that contradict these rumours.

Ex-husband James Dougherty stated that Marilyn washed her face several times a day to avoid breakouts, which resulted in dry skin that may have led to her Vaseline baths. In addition, Ralph Roberts, her masseuse, described the incredible feel of her skin, contradicting claims of poor hygiene.

Furthermore, documents and receipts from Julien’s Auctions reveal that Marilyn invested a significant amount of money in personal care and beauty products throughout her life. Spending thousands of dollars on beauty treatments demonstrates her commitment to maintaining her appearance.

It is essential to separate the person from the public image when examining not just Marilyn Monroe but any celebrity. While some individuals aim to destroy the illusion for personal gain, it is crucial to remember that Marilyn was a human being. Like anyone else, she occasionally had days off from make-up or washing her hair, deviating from the image she meticulously crafted. It is unjust to judge her solely based on fleeting glimpses that may contradict the beauty standards of her time. Beauty goes beyond skin deep, and it is high time we appreciate Marilyn Monroe for the icon she was, without perpetuating unfounded myths and trying to scrutinise her appearance.